Be Kind to Yourself

{via Pinterest}

Though living with my parents has been an incredible blessing for our financial well being, it has been difficult.

Difficult in the sense that we’re married {have been for almost 6 years}, and living with my parents.

Difficult in the sense that everyone around us seems to be on the next chapter of their lives including home-owning, baby-making, second baby-making, etc.

I try to focus on the good things: the money-saving, debt-freeing, quality time moments. But who am I kidding? We are living. with. my. parents.

If I’m not careful, it easily becomes a pity party – feeling sorry for myself and my perceived regression of “normal” life stages ultimately leading down a destructive path I call the “if onlys”.

Are you familiar with the “if onlys”? As in “if only (fill in the blank) my life would be so much better”. {My favorite fill-in-the blanks: more money, a better job, a child, a house, a car, a different career.} If you’ve ever been there, you know this: It’s a dark, lonely place.

The truth is that we always want the things that we don’t have. Jealousy brews just beneath the surface of well-intentioned joy sharing accomplishments of even the closest friends.

I am not proud of this. I am however, realistic. Realistic about recognizing my own tendencies to compare myself to others. It takes a lot of effort to keep my jealousy in check and to live in my own accomplishments.

Not only have these past several months fostered growth in financial maturity, they have served a ginormous lesson in personal growth. I am grateful for this.

I’m learning to be kind to myself, to accept my life for what it truly is: mine.



One thought on “Be Kind to Yourself

  1. i feel this same way sometimes, it’s completely normal to want what you don’t have! you guys are doing so amazing though! i’m so proud of you and jealous, too! wish i was consumer debt free right about now:) in the end i’m sure you guys will be so happy you made the decision to live with your parents for a while! worth it in the long run!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s